This meeting is being recorded. Hi, good morning Rabbi S. I apologize for the delay. So I think we're going to look this morning בעזרת השם בלי נדר here at the michtav that's printed under siman tzadi vav. Yekiri machmadi. מכתביך המגיעים לידי מפעם לפעם גורמים לי קורת רוח מרובה.
Gives me a lot of satisfaction. קבל נא בזה את תודתי הלבבית, my heartfelt thanks, עבור מכתביך הארוכים בטוב טעם והמעידים על נפשך היפה. מתוך העובדה כי עד היום לא כתבתי לך מענה עליהם תוכל להבין עד כמה סומך אני על אומן רוחך ועל הקשר הקבוע שבנפשך אשר על פיהם אשפוט מישרים כי לא תגנוב בלבבך חלילה שום טינה על זה.
Which literally trans- well not literally, but which paraphrased translates as from the fact that I haven't been responding to your letters, you see that I rely on your recognizing the connection that we feel and not misinterpreting my silence. אם אמנם נכון הוא הדבר כי בשעה שבני אדם קרובים ברוח יושבים במסיבה פנים אל פנים יתכן כי שתיקתם תהא מלאת ביטוי.
If it's correct, if it's true, that people who are where there's a great affinity between them, they're on the same wavelength, can be sitting together in silence and yet the silence is full of content and expression, הרי כי שפתי אליך במשך כל הזמן מעידה כמאה עדים כי גם דומיה ממרחקים יכולה לאצור בתוכה רחשי לב.
Okay. ובטוח אני בך מחמדי כי אמנם מוכשר אתה להקשיב לרחשי לבבי בעצם הדומיה.
And I'm confident in you that you're capable of hearing the feelings and the thoughts of my heart even amidst the silence. גם מכתבך האחרון עוררני להפסיק את ביטוי השתיקה ולהגיב לך דברים אחדים ברורים ומפורשים.
Your last letter aroused me to interrupt the expressing myself through silence and instead and instead to respond to you a few things clear and explicit. Okay. Everyone who studied הלכות דיינים בחושן משפט יודע כי ישנם זמנים הפסולים לישיבת הדיינים.
Beit Din doesn't convene on Shabbos. Beit Din doesn't convene initially at night. There are zmanim which are psulim for Beit Din convening. To turn that around and say that in a positive way, ישיבת הדיינים דורשת זמנים מיוחדים אשר אך בהם כשרה היא.
To sit in Beit Din, to sit in judgment can only happen in times that are appropriate for din. Zeh umefursam. This is well-known. אבל ישנה בכאן הארה שאינה מפורסמת כל כך. But there is again so that's again the similar to the other day where he was darshening the halacha of ma'arich be'echad. So now Rav Hutner's gonna This din that yeshivas dayanim is ksheira at some times, but psula at other times. אבל ישנה בכאן הערה שאינה מפורסמת כל כך. There is an insight here which is not so well known. הערה זו מלמדת אותנו כי ייחוד הזמן הכשר לדון בו איננו נוהג דווקא בדיין הבא לדון את חברו.
This idea, this principle, this metzius that judgment requires the right time, that not every time is appropriate for judgment is not limited to the conventional setting of Beis Din where Beis Din are judging someone else. אלא שגם אדם היושב על כיסא המשפט לדון את עצמו.
But even when a person is judging himself, he's, he's engaged in self-appraisal in terms of what he's cut out for in life, what he isn't cut out for in life, what he's capable of, what he's not capable of. גם הוא מחויב להתאים את שעת המשפט לזמן הכשר לזה.
Very, very important yesod. A person, again, even when he's judging himself has to make sure that he's doing so at the appropriate time. Mimichtavecha ha'achronim from your recent letters, from your last letters nichnas blibi roshem, I have the impression כי הנך עסוק בזמנים הללו בשיקול מאזני חייך that you're preoccupied with weighing the balances in your life. Keshofet zeh like the judge hayoshev al kiso, sitting on the seat of judgment ושוקל את כף הזכות ואת כף החובה של בעל הדין.
Like, like a dayan, like a judge who's weighing the side of zchus and the side of chovah. קבל נא בזה אפוא את הכרעתי. Accept, please or now again Onkelos always translates na as k'an, as now. Rashi usually thinks na means please. Sometimes even for Rashi it means now. But Rashi, I don't know which Rav Hutner has in mind, maybe both. קבל נא בזה אפוא את הכרעתי. Please, now accept my decision. כי הזמן הזה שאתה נמצא בו פסול הוא בשבילך לדון.
The time now for you is a time which is disqualified from your engaging in judgment. What, what do you mean? Most people, I don't, maybe one doesn't need to qualify it so carefully, maybe one can more appropriately say everyone, at some point, at various points in life has disappointments. I don't know, the disappointment can be when a person is at the stage of shidduchim, a person thinks that, that a certain prospect is very promising, but there isn't bilateral agreement on that. So that can be very, very disappointing and, and can take a toll on a person. A person can take an exam and, and an important exam and the results are, are uncharacteristically disappointing. A person can have a very negative experience with his boss and it's natural that at those types of moments, at those types of times. The the person can easily be discouraged, can easily be demoralized and and that's what Rav Hutner is is telling his talmid, that that's not the time to assess or reassess one's life and one's life's plans. After, again, what when a person suffers something, again, which is as an experience which is significantly demoralizing, a person has to be very careful not to be engaged in in self-judgment at that point because the discouragement, the demoralization, the maybe desire to avoid a repeat of that emotionally trying experience can lead a person to make the wrong judgment, to reach the the wrong wrong decisions. I think in shidduchim there's even a phrase where they talk about when how sometimes when people get married on the rebound; that they were involved in a, again, whatever in the context of of their life what this means is in a relatively long dating relationship, and then it it came to an end. That the the other side ends it. And it's yaduah, right, it's conventional wisdom that the person is then prone, more prone than otherwise to make a mistake in shidduchim moving forward. A person can decide to leave one career path, a career path which really he is very much cut out for, has been matzliach in, because he has a a very negative, even traumatic experience with a boss. But those zmanim when a person is is feeling the the effects of, again, whether it's professionally having been dealt with unfairly in a very cold way, whether it's the effects, again, of a personal relationship, even if the other party didn't do anything, wasn't the miss in in ending the the relationship because the other party didn't didn't think it was the right thing, those are zmanim and examples of zmanim which are pasul l'don. V'ha'amin li chavivi, there in the top line, believe me, כי השופט הדן בזמן הפסול לדון, it's not just that he's sort of violating a halacha that he shouldn't be dan, he shouldn't be judging at these moments, ee efshar lo, it's impossible, שלא יוציא משפט מעוקל מתחת ידו. Inevitably, if a person is דן בזמנים הפסול לדון, the din that he'll render will be distorted; the din that he'll render will not be correct, the judgment that he'll make, the decision that he'll reach won't be correct. הנני מצרף בזה לשון של ציווי ללשון של בקשה, so I guess the first na was bakasha, but again, it could have been, could have been now also. הנני מצרף בזה לשון של ציווי ללשון של בקשה ובשתי הלשונות גם יחד הנני אומר לך,
I tell you both as a request and as a as an order: chadal l'cha, right, cease and desist, stop lishpot es atzmecha, stop judging yourself bazmanim ha'eylu. Malei es chovosecha, just continue, fulfill what what your current obligations are. Amod b'nisyonosecha, deal with the the nisyonos that have come your way now mitoch chedva pnimis with an inner sense of joy מבלי חטוט בקביעת צורת חייך, without... again trying to change to that's not the right translation without trying to alter uproot the basic forms and contours of your life Va'ani mavtiach lecha and I guarantee you כי עלות תעלה וגם יכול תוכל paraphrasing Kalev ben Yefuneh. Ka'asher ta'avor b'shalom b'ezras Hashem יגלה הזמן השוטפים עליכם מכל עבר, when you'll in peace, in shalom, you'll pass, you'll get beyond the waves of time of the moment which at the moment are inundating you from all sides, then nisyashiv badavar. Then we can think clearly, u-v'retzon Hashem darcheinu, and if Hakadosh Baruch Hu will favor us נוציא בזה משפט ברור. Then we'll be able to produce a clear decision in terms of what your direction of life should be על פי דעתה של תורה. Im hayita mevin, if only you could understand כמה קורת רוח הינך גורם למעלה על ידי עמידה בנסיונותיך,
if only you could know kaveyakhol how much nachas as it were kaveyakhol how much satisfaction in shamayim there is over your successfully coping with and dealing with your nisyonos, היית מסרונן כל היום, lashon rina. You'd be singing and exalting all day long machmas hisromemus haruach because of that sense of exaltedness that you would experience. עלה והצלח בכל דרכך כתפילת נפש אוהבך יצחק הוטנר. Very, very big yesod. When a person has a down period in life, it's not the time to be reassessing, it's not the time to be making unplanned turns, not the time to be making revisions. A person has to be in a healthy, happy, positive frame of mind to engage in self-judgment. It's a very, very big yesod. Okay, so בלי נדר אם ירצה השם we'll reconvene around 1:30. I just want to just give me one second, I just want to pull out the Gemara, excuse me one second.